Morning walks... (Copy)

Since we got Norma in the beginning of February I have gone for morning walks with her. It has become my morning ritual, which I stick to most mornings. It is also the first ritual that I really really enjoy without force. 

There is something a little magical about being in slow pace, when the rest of the world is hurrying to get places. And I have become friends with a lot of the old people around here. 

It has made a big difference in how I function the rest of the day and I really feel it when I don’t get out for that walk. 

We live in this amazing place where the beach is 5 minutes away, our house is in the woods, a cozy little town close by and many places to go exploring with a dog. 

Even though (ew) with all the wild life around there are so many gross things for the dog to eat. Being pregnant and finding your dog munching away on a dead bird/horse shit/rotten fish and other goodies, isn’t such a great combo… 

Usually I bring my phone to take pictures (not of the dogs feast mind you), as the sky, the sea and life around here looks different every morning. 

These are from our walk this morning. 


Come join us in Instagram for a little photo challenge. We start May 15th

6 prompts, 6 days, 6 scholarship spots for "Awake in the Ordinary"


The Ordinary Woman Series: Aurora Lagattuta (Copy)

I have invited women, ordinary, amazing women to share their story. I love listening to stories about life. And we all have an extraordinary, ordinary story to share. Today a dear sister shares her stories. Please meet Aurora... <3

 

Aurora Lagattuta, 29 San Diego. Engaged. I am a dance and yoga teacher and creator of BodyBoca. 

Heal: my confidence in myself as a dancer.

The Ordinary body holds expression.

I am a dancer, a choreographer, a teacher and a healer. Although, I can say that now with ease, it took me a long time to honor these gifts. As a child, I was so easily identifiable as a performer, a lover of play and an open channel to the unseen. Like so many, I had to think that I loss that part of myself to realize who I truly am and always have been, the extraordinary, ordinary me. 

When I was fourteen, my parents hit some hard financial times. I grew up in a big Italian Irish family in inner-city Chicago. As second born of four children, I learned to eat fast so I could get seconds, how to live jammed into one room with two siblings and mostly how to not ask for too much. I loved to dance, loved, loved, loved it. And I excelled at it. By fourteen, I was asked to be in a professional training company, it was a dream come true. However, it was also very expensive and my parents where balancing tuition so we could go to private school as the inner city public school system in Chicago at that time was pretty rough and dangerous. We couldn't afford it. I quit. I auditioned for theatre shows at my show instead and was met with huge success, leads in various plays, theatre award and acceptance to a very prestigious theater university in New York City.

My university in New York had many opportunities for me move and I grabbed them all. I discovered yoga and Butoh and feel in love. I found safe places where I could express my body. All my work continued to revolve around the body and dance. I graduated only to teach yoga and find more places to study dance. I self taught myself most things and this got me surprisingly far, I danced for a few small companies in Portland, OR. Yet, I wasn't satisfied. I wanted to prove that I was indeed a dancer. I wanted a degree, a piece of paper, something to stop the insecure feelings from coming. Because for me, I still was just not quite good enough.

I applied for grad school to get an MFA in dance. Again, the financial situation of my family inhibited the credit on my school's account. I was unable to get a diploma or transcript released. No school. At this point in my life, really a lot of things were going well.  I was working and living in Hawaii, I was dancing, I had great friends, but I wasn't satisfied. I was pissed at my family. At a lack, I starting performing my dancing live at open mics and although I was insecure about it, I was met with such positive feedback. I moved people. I did not have the best technique but I had a lot of heart.

This started to open me. Maybe my lack of training was actually a gift. Maybe a part of me chose this situation with my family, chose not to have degrees. Maybe I was enough, just my honest authentic moving self. I made a solo about this new found acceptance called Inside the Whale. I had a successful kickstarter campaign that funded me to dance in Europe. I toured the show throughout Europe and the USA, from Berlin to Barcelona to Chicago to Broadway in NYC. In fact, the show was just awarded a performance in Warsaw in June. 

Now, let me tell you, Inside the Whale isn't your typical dance movement, it is raw, honest and from my heart and it has been accepted and loved by many! It's authenticity has moved people. Just me. My ordinary self and body! This whole process of surrendering to myself and honoring the ordinary body led me to make BodyBoca, my dance company that works with dancers of any age and ability. I realized that the part of me that needed healing, that anyone can dance and express themselves in performance regardless of their body type or background, I could share with others. 

 

In BodyBoca I work with groups of diverse dancers for 6 months at a time, in classes and workshops, to empower dancers to honor that beautiful expression that their natural ordinary body holds. It's magical work and I see huge changes in people. Ex-dancers, people who have always wanted to move, people with body image concerns, dance lovers, all kinds of people step into their natural ability to move their body, to dance! As we build connection to our body, we also build a performance. The performance is an incredible opportunity for the dancers to step into owning just how beautiful, powerful and profound their bodies are as they allow themselves to be seen. It's an incredible journey that I have had and it's a joy and gift to now facilitate that for others.

 

I want to be clear that I'm not bashing trainings or schooling at all.  Its all useful tools, but rather I'm promoting expressing your natural body freely, without a desired physical form and seeing what you discovery. Our bodies hold our pain, pleasures, fears, desires, sadness, joy, dreams and powers. A practice I truly love to do daily is to put on some music, breathe deep and listen in to how my body wants to move. And then I just move for sometime. What wants to be released? What insights does my body want to share with me? What does it want me to express? It's a playful moving meditation. 

 

I have a wild big dream that one day people of all ages will gather together and dance for one another. Move their natural body freely and express what they need to. I desire to see more performances that include diversity of backgrounds and ages. I desire to see performance and the act of moving to be used as a healing ritual and rite of passage to help us along the path. Dance your day, dance your love for someone, dance for your ancestors, dance for peace. I want to see a world in which our ordinary body is empowered and seen for its sheer extraordinariness. 

Bio
Aurora Lagattuta laughs loudly, dreams wildly and waves her hands rapidly when she excited.  A choreographer, performer, teacher and creator of dances, interdisciplinary performances and films. She has created works ranging from community projects to ensemble and solo performances for site-specific and theatre venues across U.S.A., Europe and Asia.

She has found a multidisciplinary style that blurs the lines between theatre, dance and post-dance. Her highly embodied pieces often use multiple lanuages, poetry, song, abstract narratives, video and live scuplture with dance and theatrical movement. Her work has been described as being, “bizarre and beautiful” as well as “transformational” and “otherwordly.”

She has been awarded residencies at Bali Purnati in Bali, Indonesia; La Caldera in Barcelona, Spain; Palacio de Festivales and Espacio Espiral in Santander, Spain; and Forn de La Calc in Catalunya, Spain. She was a P.O.R.C.H. recipient at Ponderosa in Germany and achieved a successful Kickstarter campaign in 2012 for her solo, Inside the Whale. Most recently, she was awarded the United Solo Europe Award and is being flown to Warsaw, Poland to perform her solo, Inside the Whale. 

My business 
BodyBocaBody + Boca (Spanish for mouth) is about honoring the creative expression that every body holds. BodyBoca was created by Aurora in 2013 in Santander, Spain at Espacio Espiral Movement Laboratory with a bunch of free spirited Spaniards making dance performance and video, and has since travelled here to San Diego with Aurora. BodyBoca's mission is to empower participants to listen to their natural body through the creation of authentic community-inclusive dance. 

Links:

Website: http://auroralag.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/BodyBoca

Upcoming show stand tall event page: 

https://www.facebook.com/events/1596792080552035/

The Magic of Circle with Sora Surya No (Copy)

Sora Surya No is a transformative business coach, intuitive mentor, international retreat leader, inspirational speaker, fire igniter, heart whisperer, nomadic entrepreneur, world traveler, sister, friend, and lover of love.

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She is also a dear friend and woman of great inspiration to me. She has shown me the true value of sisterhood and she guests the Podcast show today, to talk about sisters, circle and why that kind of support is so important. 

Sora brings women together online and in person all over the world. The groups she runs are so full of love and openness. Please check her out here:

Web www.sorasuryano.com/

Facebook www.facebook.com/RadiantWomensCircle

And my favorite Instagram https://instagram.com/sorasuryano/

Selfie Love with Vivienne McMaster (Copy)

Interview with Vivienne McMaster today on the podcast. 

I adore this woman. She has such a fun and loving spirit and I was over the moon when she accepted being part of the podcast. We talked about selfies, self-love and having fun with it all. 

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Vivienne McMaster is a photographer with a big heart and a spirit of playfulness.  She is part whimsical, part urban, and definitely quirky.  She teaches a wide variety of photography and video based e-courses and believes that self-portraiture and creative exploration can save our lives.  She shares colorful visual stories over at her website. 

Since 2013, Vivienne's mission has become even more focused on helping people see themselves with kindness through their cameras and she is so honoured to be able to share this work through her blog and through Be Your Own Beloved. 

I can really recommend checking her out on Instagram - I do :) 

To feel content - do you? (Copy)

Over 4 years ago I read Sarah Napthali's book "Buddhism for mothers of young children".  It is a great book, it brought understandable language to a profound practice and the ups and downs of being a mom. It resonated with me then and still very much does. 

Nearly every class I teach hears about the book and I usually read this passage to them. This is my favorite little snippet. 

It touched me deeply. Reflections arose about; What am I running towards and why? 

It wasn't about killing my desires and drive, but waking up to why they were important and seeing all that I had right here in front of me. Something I remind myself of often. I have so much.  It came back to my fascination of the ordinary and what really makes us feel happy and content, for em it has never been determined my the sensational events in my life. 

Check out the book she is amazing. 

I would love to hear a quote that moves you, please share in the comments below. 

My Monica closet. (Copy)

It is no secret that I often feel challenged with the mess of having kids, a dog and a man who doesn't have the same need for tidying as me. I wouldn't want to call myself a cleaning fanatic or obsessed with order (pretty sure none of our friends would either), but clutter stresses me. 

We moved into this house a year ago. For 30 years a sweet man lived here before us. He spent most of his time drinking and smoking and not really cleaning. So it is no understatement that this place needed a little work. Till this day I feel nauseous just thinking about removing wallpaper - never again. 

Anyway, most of the house is really nice, we worked hard. But one little storage room/stair case needed a little love. And I couldn't be asked. Let's close the door and come back next year. It smelled, the spiders were having a right party and who needs old poster casings really?

The before... 

Then I was on a call with a woman who is a Feng Shui expert. 'Oh yeah Carina, that's your wealth corner'.. of course it is.

So it was time - to wrestle the clutter and get some space into my wealth corner/clutter shrine/Monica closet. 

Since my wealth corner was swamped, our budget was low, and I just used what we had at home and bought a few extra supplies for around $30.

I robbed the kid's creative shelf and cut petals for 2 hours. The man looked sceptic. 'where are they going up?'.

It's still a storage room, an old house and has a little basement smell, but go wealth corner. 

And tada here's the after. 

Anywhere you feel you could do some spring cleaning? 

The Beautiful Ordinary (Copy)

Something I love more and more is the word Ordinary. For a long time it was totally not sexy or desirable and I find we run really fast to get away from it. 

As an entrepreneur I get told to and spend a shit load of time, defining why I am anything but ordinary - I am to share all my amazingness with you. We all have that too, it's great, but I also feel that what connects us as humans is the ordinary, common humanity. 

It ain't 6-figures coming in each day or getting on Oprah. Nothing wrong with that at all, it for me just doesn't categorize as ordinary. It only connects a few.

The ordinary is what makes me feel less alone, what makes me laugh, what connects me to others, what allows me to breath and exhale with a phew... I am not the only one. I love listening to stories about people's lives, their fears and their joys. 

So I scribbled down a little on what comes up for me in my life, the ordinary, the ugly and the beautiful.

The ordinary in my life is...

...food (or toothpaste), on my clothes when I show up for a meeting. It really happens, and I am so sure I checked before I left the house... (ordinary or slob)

...tearing up and the first school intro meeting for my oldest. The teacher happened to mention something about reading. I cry a lot. 

...toilet paper

...fearing that something will happen to my loved ones. And thinking that the best solution would be to just keep everyone at home all the times.

...regreting the statement above after a week of everyone being at home, sick. Now contemplating  different ways to deal with my fear of death. 

...love

...not enough sleep, and waking up some mornings just to be stunned by the reflection in the mirror - why the hell do I look like a man when I tired. 

...going to bed at 7:45pm and hating to admit it. No, last night, yeah we hosted a dinner for 15 of our closest friends... not. 

...feeling out of control on Amazon. "but babe, it's so weird, I only ordered 2 books and they happened to send 6. 

...dreams

...making mistakes. And the shame of having made one. The harsh inner-voice telling me off for not mastering it all. 

...the simple fact that many times I just don't know...

What's your ordinary? 

On purpose with Helene Scott (Copy)

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Helene is here to talk about doing business on purpose. She is so down to earth and fun - and even if you aren't in business you are going to enjoy her insights, they go beyond. 

HÉLÈNE SCOTT helps daring female solopreneurs build the business they were born to create, by identifying their why, owning it + acting on it with conviction.

With a background in graphic, web + user experience design, plus years of building brands + start-ups from the ground up — Hélène offers a highly intuitive + empathetic approach on how to craft a brand + business that is undeniably YOU, which in turn acts like a homing device to the very people you most want to serve.

Check out this awesome woman here...

http://helenescott.com/

signature free training —> http://helenescott.com/brand-on-purpose/

mastermind membership —> http://helenescott.com/bop-collective/

Social Haunts:

https://twitter.com/HeleneScott

https://www.facebook.com/HeleneScottDesign

https://plus.google.com/u/0/+HeleneScott/posts

http://instagram.com/helenescott

What are you hungry for? with Rachel Cole (Copy)

What are you hungry for?

This interview moved me. The reflection of what I am hungry for still ripples during my day. You are going to love Rachel and her work is so important.

Rachel Cole is a certified life coach, celebrated retreat leader, and women’s empowerment expert. She has spent ten years guiding women to identify, understand and feed their truest hungers – at and away from the table. As an eating disorder survivor herself, Rachel speaks with great wisdom, sensitivity, and authority about what it takes to live as a well-fed woman in the modern world.

She has traveled across the United States and internationally speaking and teaching to sold-out gatherings of women on how they too can find ease and fulfillment in their lives simply by honoring their own hungers. Rachel holds a Masters Degree in Holistic Health Education and is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach.

Find her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram

Simple Pleasures vol. 1 (Copy)

Simple pleasures, but why not aim for the big mind-blowing out of this world experiences. I like simple. I find joy in the small(er) things, as they bring me to where I already am. What is right here. What can be enjoyed, seen and felt here. It's not hunting sensation or avoiding pain, it is waking up to the pleasure of life.

When I was at several anxiety attacks a day, keeping myself indoors, afraid of living because it felt too painful - one of the things that supported the transition into feeling alive again was opening up to the "little" things. A nice shower, a song I fell in love with, a kiss, a hug, a good laugh, the sun, silence, sounds.

Funny thing is, I haven't felt the need to move away from those things, they are what life is to me. Simple pleasures happen everyday, and they make me feel full, content. Big bursts of special occasions are cool, but not what I live for. They do not make my daily life rich.

So for inspiration I will be sharing a simple pleasures series on the blog, and welcome to vol. 1. Grab what resonates or use the direction to open up to the things in your life.

Here we go.

Moving to the tunes...

I have fallen in love with a young woman from Tennessee. Valerie Junemakes me wanna move, fills my body with ease, touches something deep inside. Music has always done crazy things to me, and I love to dance. This week this song has done the trick. Enjoy.

For fun...

David Lynch Weekend

A lonesome evening, when the kids were finally asleep and I found myself bored - I ran through Instagram and found the funniest # ever. I laughed till I cried which can be weird when you are on your own.

It is #whymysoniscrying

Now the funny thing is not the photos of crying children.

What makes it so funny are the reasons they are crying. The situations where you as a parent feel you have dropped into the closing scene of a David Lynch movie - What, why, where, I don't get it (still have no clue what Lost Highway was about).

Like when you give your kids the snack they specifically asked for, but placed the plate an inch in the wrong direction and it is mayhem for about 15 mins. Or you walked into a room, not knowing it was going to ruin their day. Or you breath too close to them etc. It is funny because, thankfully you realize you are not alone, and that the frustration seems to be universal.

If you need a laugh check out that hashtag on instagram.

For stillness...

Sitting outside...

...closing your eyes and feeling the air and wind against your face. Sensing the crispness of winter. We don't have to make it formal and call it mediation, or set ourselves up to all sorts of things. Just that moment when you allow yourself a moment of stillness, to just be. Letting your body sink a little deeper to where you are. Knowing that space has nothing to do with time. It can be for one in breath or 100. How does it feel.

Stillness simpel pleasures

Episode #21 with Nichole Kellerman (Copy)

get moving

Today we are getting moving with Nichole Kellerman Wurth. She just got back from Africa and guests us to share her wisdom about women's health, moving, and why it's important to look at diet and food in a different way.

Nichole wants to live in a world where women actually enjoy the process of losing weight + connecting with their bodies.

As a weight loss coach, she’s been featured on major websites like The Well Grounded Life, Your Great Life TV and The Greatist.

When she’s not fearlessly (but lovingly) pushing her clients into a lifestyle they dream of, you can find her laughing with friends, connecting with nature and loving up on her husband and two dogs.

Her business Wildly Alive Weight Loss is for women who want to stop dieting, re-frame their minds so they can reshape their bodies. Her teachings are like nothing you’ve ever heard.

Discover how you can lose weight by feeling #WildlyAlive at WildlyAliveWeightLoss.com.

Episode #20 with Kendra Kentor (Copy)

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Kendra Kantor is a  Wellness Mentor and Guide for creative women who are looking to embrace their self discovery and improve their mental health wellness. She helps women take action toward becoming the person they want to be and living a life they have created to enjoy. Kendra wants to live in a world where mental and emotional wellness and self care is a top priority. And her big life goal is to travel in an RV full time with her husband and son.

She guests us for a chat about wellness in motherhood and how this can be a challenge. Kendra shares her vulnerable story - something many women can relate to but maybe don't talk about.

You can also find her here: 

Facebook

Website

Blog

Mama Bliss with Kathy Stowell (Copy)

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Meet Kathy. For years here she been helping mamas simplify their family life and now Kathy also helps with simplifying their business.

Kathy stopped by for a chat about her coaching school, her passion for supporting moms, and her popular blog and why she does it all.

These days she especially loves teaching mamas how to share their experiences on their blog then serve others by turning these passions into a side, or full-time, work at home gig.

She runs the Mama Bliss coaching School, training mamas to become coaches and become self-employed. She is a wonder with her words and her workbooks alone can transform your biz. I did here training, and I really really liked it.

Check her out, the lovely Kathy

http://www.blissbeyondnaptime.com/mama-bliss-coaching-school/

Facebook - BlissBeyondNaptime

We have gone crazy (Copy)

Mouse

My clients always tell me how frustrating it is that their thoughts are ruining their attempt to meditate. Thoughts make so much noise that it blocks the inner peace they set out to feel.

I'll get back to that...

Well, us city people are feeling the sweetness of country living in a, well lets put it lightly, challenging way… We have mice EVERYWHERE.

The first day, we tore the house apart stuffing holes, cleaning, pulling our hair and finally collapsing in the middle of chaos trying to find energy for the clean-up…

Really happy and satisfied with round 1 of the war against mice - we went to bed. We woke up and there was MORE mouse droppings all over the house - say what? How did this happen.

We discussed the same procedure as yesterday neither of us had the energy. We discussed moving - seemed like less of a deal then the clean up. And setting the house on fire was up for a while too.

The kids looked scared, so we went with cleaning. And the past week has continued in this fun little dance. My partner wakes up looking manic and angry. I have gone into everything is so weird it’s funny, which is calming no one.

Last night the little pain was back again. The kids are finally (jinxed?) sleeping through the night, but last night our ol' pal Mr. mouse sounded like he was rearranging walls... So there I was banging on things at 3am in the morning. Couldn't find my glasses, so with a lack of visual I was making random noises with no clear plan and talking in tongue to myself.

It dawned on me in all the madness, as we were working ourselves up to crazy, it is the same way with thoughts.

We fight them like mouse-busting. The more they stay, increase and drop(ping) in our mind, the more frustrated and desperate we get. So I get that the mouse has to stay out of the kitchen, but I don’t want them gone off the face of the earth. I feel they are gross in my food, but cute when I see them jumping around outside.

As with thoughts they have the right to be here, they have a function and aren’t the enemy. They do however have a place, and nor the whole picture or defining factor about how you feel about your "house".

So how do you relate to your thoughts? Do they overwhelm you? Do you feel you have to run with or after every thought that floats by?

I believe that there is such freedom in allowing our thoughts to come and go, and not feeling that we need to tend and kill every single one.

Episode #18 with Adedayo Fashanu (Copy)

The art of being alive

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Adedayo Fashanu is a millennial who refuses to play small and is ready to be a game changer in her generation. A writer, mental health and wellness advocate. She lives on the one philosophy that we are all designed to live a thriving life regardless of our backgrounds, resources available, locations or anything we might feel as an existing barrier to rising above our status Quo.

She is a Nigerian born twenty-three year old who is a goal-getter, a dreamer and a visionary. She began college at the age of fifteen and was recorded to be the youngest attended student and graduate with her associates at seventeen and her bachelors in psychology at nineteen, currently in her masters to be a psychotherapist.  She is also a graduate of the Institute of Integrative Nutrition NYC where she studied holistic health and nutrition.

An emerging social entrepreneur; her self-started company LifestyleWellbeing Co. LLC is a growing new business which she aims to use it a platform to promote mental health and holistic wellness.

Her latest undertaking is a coffee-table book she is creating titled “The Art of Being Alive.” The book project is a collection of stories from people all over the world that explores what it means to come alive and to live fully. She believes that by sharing people’s come alive stories in this book, the reader will be pumped up to go live out fully alive because the art of being alive is on the other side of fear.

Social Media Links:

www.facebook.com/lifestylewellbeing

www.facebook.com/feelalivemovement

www.facebook.com/AdedayoFashanu

instagram @AdedayoFashanu

3 ways you can be a part of the evolving of the project: 

1.Be in the book or a part of the movement by using this form to submit your inspiring story: http://www.formget.com/app/form/share/WFbK-93375 (every submission will be used either in the book if submitted early or in the social media feed to promote the movement)

2.Watch the youtube trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9w3XvuKACOc&authuser=0

3.Like us on facebook to support the project : www.facebook.com/feelalivemovement

Watch out for our possibly indiegogo campaign to push this project to the next level…

Episode #17 with Patricia Mauerhofer (Copy)

Mind Body and Business with Patricia Mauerhofer

Today's guest is a wise woman who guests us to share your passion and knowledge mind body and business.

Mind-Body Success Mentor, Patricia Mauerhofer empowers women in business to making money and making a difference without harming their own health or sacrificing close relationships.

A certified project manager and professional coach, she is living her purpose and empowering others to find theirs. As a practicing Buddhist, she is mindful to talk her walk. Part of her mission is to spill over the happiness and joy she found within during many years of a debilitating disease and after healing herself in 2011 from this 'incurable' condition.

Patricia is guiding, coaching and teaching women who want to step into their power and live their best life in English, German, Swiss German and French.

Patricia's Website: http://patriciamauerhofer.com/

Connect with her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/patriciamauerhofer.mindbodysuccess

Episode #16 with Ellie Savoy (Copy)

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Ellie Savoy is the owner and founder of Diet Free and Healthy, Inc. and is known by many as the Queen of Simple Weight Loss. She has a gift and passion for helping serial dieters break free from the dieting roller-coaster for good, reclaim their waistline, and discover the ultimate gift of health.

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Through a step-by-step process which includes 5 simple mindset shifts, she inspires, educates and empowers women to see their daily food and lifestyle choices as beautiful gifts to themselves that support their long-term health and happiness instead of it feeling like a chore and time consuming.

She stops by and shares her wisdom and beautiful english accent. :) She has a very interesting book coming out soon. Listen to her talk about why this subject is so important!

You can also find her here: 

https://www.facebook.com/DietFreeAndHealthyhttps://twitter.com/dietfreehealthhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/elliesavoyhttp://www.dietfreeandhealthy.com/

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My 1:1 Intensive is a one to one 90 minute session for  women who want to simplify their daily lives.

Working alongside me, in those 90 minutes we will look at the story and patterns that continue to complicate your life and rob your freedom.  We work towards sustainable ways to simplify with tools that you can easily integrate.

At the moment, adding more into an already demanding schedule probably isn’t working for you; when can you really fit this in? We find the right fit for you.

I would love to chat with you about this. So I am offering you a free 30 min. session. Book yours here...

Life status: It’s complicated… (Copy)

Simple living

I know complicated! Yet I have never dealt with it well. Every time someone says “It’s complicated” I feel heaviness in my body - no thank you, never mind.

I am in many ways simple minded. I loose the storyline in sci-fi movies. I feel confused 3 lines in... “In a galaxy far far away, xanax-3000 was moving himself through time using a vibrator on fire. Humans on planet shiatsu were threatened as they had started becoming so full of themselves” Huh… ?? After 30 minutes of my boyfriend trying to explain it,  we both accept that I will catch 1/3 of the story and enjoy falling asleep to it instead.

I could never concentrate for more than 5 minutes reading anything scientific.

The harder the better. The more the merrier... not so much for me.

I feel that secretly, we glorify busy - doing more. Not out loud, no no we hate busy - but someone who say “Oh this week, yeah I went for a few walks and read a book”, it doesn’t really stir up a lot. Someone who has 2 jobs, runs the family neatly, looks great, works out, flew across the world in a day, volunteers for 3 charities, and does her husband 6 times a week, is awesome.

I am not devaluing any of it, but I do feel we in some ways as a society we have put complicated on a pedestal. The more complicated, the more value. The more praise and awe. But is there a shift happening here?

The most complicated for me was when worry became anxiety and darkness took over. Trying to manage the future, my thoughts, my identity crisis, people’s misunderstanding and disappointment, work, money, wanting more (of everything), the city, stress, relationship, body, health, exercise, getting better, faking it and making it, family, meditation, business, my own demands…. argh someone hit the stop button. So many choices, that it almost numbs me.

I have done complicated.

This year we chose to move from the city to the house I have talked about a few times. We wanted more simplicity in our life. We wanted to reduce the costs of living. We wanted to work less. We wanted our kids to see us more. We wanted to filter out some of the constant noise and stimulation of the city. All the doing was robbing me from what I was actually working so hard to have - happiness.

I am not perfect. It is a transition and complicated still get’s to me. I do however feel a HUGE shift in energy and ease when I choose simple. When I let it all drop and look at what makes my life rich - it’ s not more stuff or moneto.

Simple isn't for everyone. We need the people who can do the science and work out complicated stuff. I too like to dream and admire the academics who I have no clue what are saying half of the time.

But HOW MUCH of it ALL do we ALL need, ALL of the time?

Simple to me is freedom.

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My 1:1 Intensive is a one to one 90 minute session for hardworking women who want to simplify their daily lives.

Working alongside me, in those 90 minutes we will look at what hasn't worked in the past, work towards sustainable ways to simplify, and most important look at the patterns that are no longer serving you.

At the moment, adding more into an already demanding schedule probably isn’t working for you; when can you really fit this in?

Let me show you how.

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When the stress releaser, becomes the stress increaser (Copy)

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I can’t begin to count how many times I have heard “I should meditate at least 20 minutes a day” or “ I have to do yoga in the morning or it won’t work” or “ I just failed at it this week”.

We embark on these journeys with great intentions, we know it feels good when we slow down and tune in, or we hope it will - the article said so.

Then we roll up our sleeves and get to it the practice. The first week was great. You felt the benefits, it was nice to take the time for yourself, your family were good with it (maybe to your surprise). 

Then week two, "shit, the meeting was moved" and you didn’t keep the momentum going that day, your kid got sick and you feel asleep on the only night that you really could have worked some practice in. 

Oh no, now a little stress sets in, now it won’t work, you failed and it was just too hard to fit in. You feel that you should be doing and that the commitment you made just is more stress, then actually benefits of meditating, doing yoga, going for walks in nature etc. This was not the point AT ALL.

Do you recognize the essence of this? 

First thing: you can't be meditate wrong!

Second, there are a few things in play here; life, impatience, maybe the stretch from 0 to 45 minutes of meditation every day was too big. Shoulding which almost never motivated pleasurable and simple action.

I really want to help you create a sustainable practice, to expand presence in your life, without creating more stress in the process.

Join me for this free tele class

Mindful Woman

I will share 3 tips to support you to begin and create a sustainable meditation practice in your life, without increasing stress in your life. If you can't join live, no worries, a recording will be sent within 24 hours, to everyone who signs up.

You can do this. You aren’t doing it wrong. We will look at how to simplify to create a sustainable path for you.

Sign up here

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Episode #15 with Ellen Nightingale (Copy)

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Ellen and I share a favorite quote. I knew as soon as I saw here website that I had to interview this woman.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” 

~Maya Angelou

She works with moms to support communication skills and attachment skills. She works with moms who have children with special needs, and focuses on helping her clients find their voices and tell their stories.

Ellen Nightingale is a speech-language pathologist, coach, and writer. She currently leads workshops and retreats for moms to help them find their voices and tell their stories.

She stopped by to talk about speaking our truth, the importance of story and motherhood.

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Join me for this free tele class

Mindful Woman

I will share 3 tips to support you to begin and create a sustainable meditation practice in your life, without increasing stress in your life. If you can't join live, no worries, a recording will be sent within 24 hours, to everyone who signs up.

You can do this. You aren’t doing it wrong. We will look at how to simplify to create a sustainable path for you.

Sign up here

Email Address

First Name