Den travle venlighed...

Jeg sad i går og skrev på en artikel. I den forbindelse fandt denne video frem igen. Den er fra TED talks, og da jeg så den for nogle år siden gjorde den et stort indtryk på mig! Den tager fat på om vi har for travlt i hverdagen til at være venlige overfor hinanden?? Jeg vil ikke skrive så meget, da jeg vil lade den tale for sig selv.

Det ville dog være fedt, at høre om det sætter nogle tanker igang hos dig? Kan du genkende pointen med travlhed?

Hvis du ikke kan se videoen direkte her fra bloggen, så bruge dette link: http://www.ted.com/talks/daniel_goleman_on_compassion.html

Find ro og stress af gennem motion.

  Det er ved at være alt for længe siden, at jeg har blogget. Den gode intention er der dog... :) Derfor lægger jeg ud med en post, som er skrevet af en anden... det bliver kickstarten tænker jeg.

Da jeg var på messe sidst i september, slog det mig, at jeg stod en hal med 180 "rigtige" måder, at leve sit sunde liv på. Blev næsten helt overvældet. Jeg var der med min stand, med brochure (der iøvrigt var trykt i mini skrift... grrr), men jeg mener bestemt ikke at mindfulness er én sandhed. Er det en praksis for alle? Sikkert ikke. Derfor har jeg inviteret nogle kvinder til, at skrive om hvad der giver dem ro, klarhed og frihed i deres liv.

Her er Lise Brøndum Andersens post. Hun er indehaver samt instruktør hos PushyMums.DK og jeg utrolig taknemmelig for, at hun havde lyst til at dele med mig/os.

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I kender det garanteret alle sammen – en travl hverdag med job, familieliv – evt. med små børn, en venskabskreds, skønne forpligtelser i alle afskygninger. Det hele er med til at gøre dig lykkelig og komplet, men til tider også småstresset.

Det handler om at finde en balance igennem det hele!  Og det har jeg fundet gennem motion samt en sund levevej.

Jeg er på ingen måde hellig omkring det. Men jeg har også fundet ud af, at jeg bliver et gladere menneske, en mere rummende kone – og en meget mere givende mor. Det hele kommer sig af, at jeg laver tid til motion i det relativt stramme program enhver børnefamilie har.

(Nu er jeg jo også så heldig, at motionen er gået hen og blevet mit job). Men jeg prioriterer højt at få kroppen i gang, så den er klar til at yde. Sådan har det ikke altid været. Langt fra…

Jeg har haft masser af perioder, hvor jeg har været udkørt og ikke sat tid af til at stresse af og koble fra via motionen.

F.eks. da jeg blev mor første gang. Jeg var så ekstremt tæt på at få en efterfødselsdepression. Eller jeg havde det måske uden rigtig at få en diagnose. Emma blev født for tidligt i London, hvor vi kun havde opholdt os et par måneder, før hun besluttede at verden skulle opleves NU. Emma fik kolik, og var rigtig ked af det de første mange måneder. Vi kendte ingen derover, familien var langt væk, og min mand var startet i nyt job, som krævede mange af hans vågne timer.

Jeg anede ikke, hvad jeg skulle gøre – var ked af det stort set lige så meget som Emma-trunten. Så begyndte jeg at vandre og løbe parkerne tynde, for så hørte man ikke hendes hjerteskærende gråd så meget (især ikke med en Ipod i ørerne), og hvis det så bare regnede (hvilket det jo gør en del i UK), så kunne man heller ikke se, at jeg også små-græd…

Midt i det hele blev min form – både fysisk og psykisk - bedre og bedre, og jeg magtede på én eller anden måde hendes smerte og gråd mere. Og jeg blev bedre i stand til at trøste hende. En dag mødte jeg en gruppe mødre, som også løb rundt i parken. Det var en officiel genoptræningsgruppe for mødre på barsel.

Og det blev starten på mit eget koncept www.pushymums.dk, and the rest is history!

Man magter SÅ meget mere, når kroppen bliver rørt. Selv efter en nat uden meget søvn, så får man ny energi ved en god tur i naturen. Det samme gør sig gældende, hvis man i en jobsituation føler sig presset eller decideret stresset. Man kobler fra – indånder ny kraft – og slipper dagens opgaver.

Tips til at få motion ind i en travl hverdag:

• Koordiner med din partner – planlæg hvornår du skal have tid til at få motion
• Løb eller cykel på arbejde
• Løb en tur med barnevognen, hvis du skal have junior til at sove
• Smid dig på gulvet derhjemme – og lav lidt stille og rolige balanceøvelser med en god vejrtrækning– og mærk, hvordan du hver gang trækker nye kræfter ind.

Resultatet af en hverdag med motion:

• En sundere krop, som kan klare mere
• Man får tømt hovedet – vasket tavlen ren ☺
• Overskud til at være mere for andre
• Bedre søvn samt bedre koncentrationsevne

Pas på dig selv!

De bedste hilsner fra Lise.

Mail: info@pushymums.dk

Web: www.pushymums.dk

FUZZY

This week I went to an amazing concert with Grant Lee Buffalo. It has been ages since my partner and I have been to a gig. Music has always been a really big part of my life and our relationship. Becoming a mom of course slowed things down a bit, very naturally - anything going on after 9pm has been pretty non-existing... But even before my daughter was born, I started to stay in more, didn't really enjoy being social, couldn't stand noise, crowds etc. As the stress level in my life rose, and anxiety attacks joined the game - I closed me up. I have been so scared of dying, that I stopped living freely.

My meditation practice has been a great part of me opening myself up to life again. And it feels amazing. Standing there listening to amazing music, having a beer, standing close to the man I love, Grant Lee Phillips all of the sudden asked the crowd "Are you affraid of life". I could honestly say that at that moment in time I was truely not. And for the first time in ages I truely mean it.

Enjoy a little "FUZZY".

“How to make 5 mill. by grinding your teeth...”

Using social media is rather new to me. I have had my personal facebook page for a long time, but never thought to go full on with it for my business. Diving into it was just out of curiousity. I have been a bit overwhelmed by it the past few weeks. For several reasons... I’ll get to them in a minute. One important thing for me, was how do I stay authentic and still go about in the fast and quick fix world of social media? I found out there are A LOT of answers to that question. I have very high expectations regarding my work. Morally, ethically and quality wise. I work hard. I can’t stand that I have started a course too soon in the past, or if I know that someone feels that they aren’t getting what they wanted from me. I try my best to give my all, when I teach, and give a big part of me everytime. I spend most of my time reading, researching, meditating and often way too much time. I just feel that it is my duty when I teach what I do. It doesn’t come from a place of selfpromoting, or wanting to be the best at everything, but from somewhere in me that sees no other way of doing it. I am working on lightening up a bit...  : )

The important part for me is that I am honest, that the people who give me money know who I am and what I stand for. I am not trying to be an expert, talk in weird fraises because that’s what some masters do, let my language clean up totally because that promotes inner peace, look as if I have been touched my an angel all day even though my morning started with my little cutie pie headbutting me in total rage. I am working hard on being real.

So... I joined the social media world in my search, and I am amazed how good people are selling their products. I have been bombarded with experts telling me how to do this and that to become an expert, guru or 1st lady... in 10 easy ways of course. Adding up the all the 10 ways, I am now trying to wrap my head around 1000000 ways to become succesful, beautiful, rich, fabulisious and stay authentic. When what I really want is to be me, and for someone to see that maybe, just maybe that is enough... to be yourself.

I am sticking to social media because I have found a lot of people who are interesting. I am going slow down a bit again, and remind myself that I am actually already doing enough and going to go back to being for a bit, and that is truly authentic.

Have you ever been caught up in all the offers online? And forgotten what you already know?

Why India Weirds Me Out

I am very lucky to have Kimberly Johnson guest blog here. I hope you enjoy her post. You can also visit her site and blog here. Kimberly has been practicing yoga for the past 17 years and teaching for the past 11. She has studied personally with the carriers of the Krishnamacharya lineage- Pattabhi Jois, BKS Iyengar, and Desikachar. After years of practicing traditionally from New York to California to India, she went through the initiation to motherhood. The energetic rearrangement of pregnancy, birth and motherhood, brought her to a new phase of self-inquiry. She realized she needed a whole new approach to her yoga and movement practice, her health, and womanhood itself. She brings in-depth anatomy studies, an incurable love of India, and a love for helping women navigate the waters of modern life guided by ancient wisdom. Pretty much every time I come back from India, I am weirded out.

I hold eye contact a little too long.

Lots of long pauses in conversation.

I eat ice cream because I figure if I am going to have diarhhea anyway, why not just eat what I want and what I didn’t have? So bean burritos and ice cream.

I thought it was just the last time I came back from India – the time when I was seriously f*ed up from a guru thing—that I was acting like a Moonie. But then I remembered a time when I was 19 and came back from my first trip. My mom took me to her therapist who handed me a magazine and I said, “no, thanks, I’ll meditate.” I was serious. And I did.

After being in the inner world for a long period of time, the outer world is jarring.

In retrospect, I think it was genuine introspection sprinkled with a tad of affect/pretension. I am grateful to my parents and friends for accepting me in all my sancrosanct namaste-ness.

However today I realized there was some wisdom in my post-India behavior.

This morning, I taught a class, sent my daughter off with a friend, changed clothes to receive a new Rolfing client, brought in chairs and a table to the yoga room so that I could sit and talk with the client, gave the session, called the client a taxi and realized I hadn’t eaten yet today. So I had three amazing Brazilian bananas and went to try to “get something done” before my daughter came back. I wasn’t sure how long it would be before my friend would bring her back. Those periods of time are always the hardest because I can’t seem to get deep into anything, like projects or practice, when I am not sure of the time frame I have.

And a voice inside came, “just sit down and meditate.”

It felt so natural and obvious. Sit down until she comes.

My mind (and I am guessing your mind) always provides the excuse of “not the right time” or “not enough time”, but the truth is those “right times” are hard to come by. Our mind provides us with a million other things we could and should be doing. But if we run around trying to satisfy that manic voice, we miss out.

The truth is: We DO have time and time actually expands when we are present with it. We all have one minute at a stop light. We CAN go to the bathroom for five minutes. The shower. Boiling water to make coffee or tea. There are infinite moments in a day, but we mindfully “spend” them.

What is really the point if we are running around disconnected but fulfilling our roles as parent, worker, partner, friend, etc. but we are not really present or enjoying any of them? So we are basically taking care of business and getting things done but not depleted and exhausted by the end of the day.

Here are a few things that have worked for me to fit practice into my day.

1. Practice first. Right when the baby takes a nap, or the kids go to school, or while you water for tea is boiling, sit for five minutes first. There are a million things that might call (dished, phone calls) but before you “do” them, prioritize your practice.
2. Stop beating yourself up over not having a home practice and practice with a friend or carve out time for one class a week. (or more if that is possible- but we can all find 1 ½ hours once a week) We often have an ideal of what we “should” be doing. Bag it, and do what works.
3. Less really is more: 10 or 15 minutes is enough time to sit, enough time to do a few salutations, or a couple poses that you are now are specifically good for you. When you set out to do less, you usually do more. But when you set out to do more, you often don’t do anything at all.

Be overly forgiving with yourself. All the emotional backlash, judgements, and guilt just creates more junk to weed through later. You want to create a positive association to practice. Soon you will build momentum as something deeper than your thinking mind will crave the practice.

Every once in a while, just close your eyes and tune in. Listen. Feel.